Dear Helene (and not my cousin)
Well Helene thanks for posting and reading my blog...
In response to your question and I'm paraphrasing .. Who adopts 4 children at once are we irresponsible, naive or what?
Well my husband and I have been called a lot of things in the past two years , neither of which has been naive or irresponsible. I don't think the social workers (we had two done by two different people) would call us irresponsible. We are actually professionals. I am a CPA and my husband is an attorney. We worked very hard to be able to be in a position to be able to adopt and provide for four children. Of course we could not do this without the support of our family, but this does not make us irresponsible.
We tried invetro, if I had gotten pregnant with multiples, would that make us irresponsible?
As for naive, well we are prepared. We have the built in support of my mother in law who encourages us and supports us everyday. We also are responsible enough to have in place a nanny to help my husband whom works from home.
Naive or irresponsible? I don't think so, selfish in wanting a large family, definatly!
In response to your question and I'm paraphrasing .. Who adopts 4 children at once are we irresponsible, naive or what?
Well my husband and I have been called a lot of things in the past two years , neither of which has been naive or irresponsible. I don't think the social workers (we had two done by two different people) would call us irresponsible. We are actually professionals. I am a CPA and my husband is an attorney. We worked very hard to be able to be in a position to be able to adopt and provide for four children. Of course we could not do this without the support of our family, but this does not make us irresponsible.
We tried invetro, if I had gotten pregnant with multiples, would that make us irresponsible?
As for naive, well we are prepared. We have the built in support of my mother in law who encourages us and supports us everyday. We also are responsible enough to have in place a nanny to help my husband whom works from home.
Naive or irresponsible? I don't think so, selfish in wanting a large family, definatly!
posted by Corey at
Tuesday, January 16, 2007
21 Comments:
I say the more the merrier! I applaude your family! Who is the irresponsible and naive one really! Some people need to practice what I think we all learned in grade school.....If you don't have something nice to say, don't say it.....
I think she is just jealous, you know you are doing the right thing for you. You have all of us in your family too, Farrah, Shelby and I will be there for you and all the kids. We are all family in adoption.
I wish I was irresponsable enough to have the space to adopt four. But since I don't have a bigger house I will settle for Madisyn for now..I mean I will die to get her home for now! LOL
This really makes me sad that people feel they have a right to ridicule others lives.
I don't understand some people. To be honest - when I first started reading your blog, I felt jealousy!! I want to adopt 4 kids. :) I can't wait to hear about your Vietnam trip.
I knew it - another negtive blogger - the nerve - hey Helene check out my blog- and kiss my but while you are at it you hateful woman!
I have 5 children and I am adopopting again hey- hey - what cha gotta say about that Miss Helene?????????????????????????????
And I am not a CPA - I am a stay at home MOM..Kiss it Helene!!!
Been needing to vent all day - thanks Helen for giving me a worthy target!
Julia
OH NO SHE DIDN'T!!! Helene, Helene, Helene(if that is your REAL NAME)....you have NO RIGHT to leave a comment like that about one of the sweetest, most loving and caring people I have ever met. Corey and her husband are adopting four children because they love children and want a large family. What's wrong with that? Who are YOU to make her feel like she has to explain herself. She owes you NO EXPLANATION.
Trust me, if I could adopt four at once, I would. What's wrong with wanting a large family full of love??? Have you ever looked at the pictures of Luke to see just how loved he is??? I guess not.
Seriously...I think people like you go around to other people's blogs and make stupid comments just to create an uproar and make your lives more interesting. You are sick and I hope you don't have any kids.
Are you the same fool leaving nasty comments on my blog for kicks??? If so, come back on over so that I can respond with a picture of my daughter giving YOU the finger.
Corey and David, you are amazing people and I can't wait for the twins and Sophie to come home to be with their wonderful Mommy, Daddy, Grandmom and Lukie. You guys ROCK!!!
I was actually thinking about how stupid Helene's comment was in the shower this morning -- the nerve of some people!!! Obviously, she hasn't been reading your blog or she would understand why you are adopting 4 -- it's because you have 4 kids in this world!!!! Corey, you really didn't have to respond, but your response was perfect. I plan to add 2 more as soon as possible, Helene, so feel free to come over to my blog and insult me!!!!
Corey - Having known you as long as I have, I know you are the most loving, giving, person and the best mom. Tell that hater to come find me and I will set her straight. Mazel Tov to you and David. You deserve nothing but happiness. Keep me posted during your trip to Vietnam. Snoot757@aol.com I cant wait to see pics of your 2 new additions. This woman is obviously bitter and needs to stay off the happy blogs. Let me know when you make it down to South Fla again. All my love, Steph:)
I read your blog often - best of luck to both of you!! Your kids will have so much fun together. Our little girl just started at daycare and LOVES being around the other kids her age...and your kids will all have each other! I continue to pray that Sophie gets home soon. Best of luck in Viet Nam.
I have to agree with your post, you are having multiples and outside help makes a big difference. Your mil always looks so thrilled with Luke...there's nothing like a grandmother's love.
Terri (Flora's mom)
Born GC 11.3.5/home forever 10.27.06
Helene - You need to get your facts straight and your act together before you go passing judgment and posting comments. Luke has been home since October and they visited him 8 yes 8 times before he came home and guess what that means they have visited Sophie 8 times so far also. And in case no one else has told you--they are not all coming home at the same time so the bonding process won't be all at the same time. AND ANOTHER THING-- I do not appreciate you trying to say that because they are adopted they are different. I have both bio and adopted children and would NEVER NEVER act like or treat them differently.
So please - do NOT pass judgment on my friends unless you know what you are talking about!!!!!
Oh, Helene blow it out your ***.
No seriously I've never meet Corey nor her husband in person but have had the pleasure of seeing, posting and being the recipent of some great encouragement, help and congrats from them while I went through my process of adopting from Guatemala.
Helene did you even take the time to read Corey's blog? How could you not of seen and felt the love she has for these children from her words.
Sending Corey and her family all the kind and loving vibes I can.
And yes add me to the group of people who would adopt 4 in a minute.
Cathie
Hey Helene - I bet you work for the US dept and CIS. I am just sure you do - Bring it on - come on down to Fayeteville NC - I am ready for you sista Helene. This family is a gift from God to a selfish world. Corey is the kind of Mom - that EVERYONE should be..I a telling you lady - you picked the wrong time to bring up this subject...come on over to my blog -
My mom had four children under the age of 5 and I think they called us a happy family.
Adoption is not for the faint of heart. It is very, very, hard to adopt; it is a huge amount of work and time, it's very expensive, there is lots of anguish involved. You have to be determined and hang in there, every week hearing a new story. You have to jusitfy your life to the homestudy, agency, and country. Your world is on hold for years sometimes.
Once you get to the third world orphanage (as I did) all you see are rows and rows of cribs full of children who would love to be this ladies #5.
Much much better to live in a large happy family then warehoused in a third world orphanage.
F You Helene!!!! The Gaynes family is full of love and those three children who are not home yet are lucky to have parents like Corey and David. Can't you see how happy Luke is. I say you leave her alone you unhappy nasty b**ch! Go run over a puppy with your car or laugh at a handicapped person...sounds like something you would do!
Is this kind of attitude reserved just for adoptive parents of 4?? Is ok so long as you birth them?
It is funny that Helene would use the owrd naive. That comment is perhaps the most naive comment I have ever heard in my life. I feel sorry for Helene's children as it is obvious they will be seeking her love and approval all of their lives from their disapproving and closed-minded (dare I say naive?) mother. Sad, very, very sad.
Oops...please excuse my typo on the word "word" in the first line.
:-) Dawn
Helene, I had no idea that the "adoptive community" (sic, p.s. it's adoption community) of Scandanavia had such strict rules and regulations in place about adopting. Sorry all you blonde ladies got your panties in a twist, but here in the United States, we love our children. This family clearly is devoted to their children - her son is attaching like a rock star (that means real good in English, hon), her twins will also, and when precious Sophie is home, she too will finally know the love of a mother and daddy. Now get back on your viking ship and zip it (that means shut up in English, hon).
Well, I don´t want to be mean but really I feel very sorry for these kids for a number of reasons. Apparently it wasn´t too long ago that you were in hospital because of bulimia and apparently not well yet(honestly both of you seem to have serious eatingdisorders) and now with your bad health you are adopting FOUR kids. Your family is actually living up to all the predujdices I had about ignorant americans, that you like exaggerations in everything, in this case poor adoptivekids! That you are booth highly educated doesn´t mean a thing in this case because it´s so clear that you don´t know anything about adopted kids and their special needs- it´s a far different thing from having (four)biological kids and it´s very naive and ignorant to think something else. How do you for ex think that four adoptivekids that are not siblings from the beginning and who have been through at least two serious separations, and maybe more traumas, will attach? It´s hard enough work with just ONE adoptivechild. I´m not writing this because I´m jelous and I do think It´s perfectly alright to adopt four kids but to adopt them one at a time and make sure that one child really is attached and secure before you get another one. And also that you are sure about your own health and strength before you have more children. I really start wondering how the socialworkers and authorities in your country can allow this...and I´m beginning to understand why China changed their rules...
As I said I feel sorry for these kids, maybe you are kind and loving people with lots of friends and family but it´s not enough if you continue to be naive about this. I suggest you at least read a couple of books and research about adoptivekids to learn more before they all arrive. I hope it will work out allright!
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